Do Women Always Have to Be Right?

Woman Holding EarsThere is an old saying that women are only right two-thirds of the time—the rest of the time they’re asleep. Of course, some may object to this as a sexist and largely inaccurate stereotype—most women believe they’re right when they’re sleeping, too.

If you have ever seen a man and a woman argue (or been a man or a woman in an argument), you know that there will probably come a time, either during or not long after the argument, where the guy finally throws up his hands, says “You win,” and apologizes. The only time this doesn’t happen is when he’s drunk, but then he apologizes when he sobers up and realizes that his wife or girlfriend isn’t speaking to him and he assumes he was wrong and she was right about something, anything, whatever it was.

How does physical stature affect the need to be right?

Have you ever heard of the Napoleon complex? That’s when someone small of stature constantly feels the need to prove themselves and push themselves to appear larger than their height. On the average, women are smaller than men. You can do the math.

Of course, not every woman looks at some guy and says “Hey, he’s bigger than me. I’m going to enhance my sense of self-worth by convincing him that I’m correct about everything.” What does happen, though, is that many women are not as distracted by sports and physical activities as men are—few women dream of being the starting middle linebacker for the Green Bay Packers, for instance. The result is that women have more free time to read and learn, giving them actual facts with which to support their opinions and helping them to be right more often.

How has the media fueled the need to be right?

When was the last time you saw a sitcom wife or mother say “I’m sorry, I was wrong”? It’s a trick question—no woman ever says that on a sitcom, unless it’s the wacky aunt visiting from Sheboygan on the holiday episode. From “The Honeymooners” to “Everybody Loves Raymond” the pattern has been the same: The husband and wife get into a serious argument and throughout the course of the episode the husband is proven to not only be wrong, but usually ludicrously so. This results in him sheepishly apologizing and admitting that his wife is right, making everything right with the world again.

When people grow up watching sitcoms where the woman is always right, what do you expect them to think in real life? Every argument involving a married man eventually reaches that “sitcom moment” when he realizes that the script requires him to sheepishly apologize, just like his favorite sitcom dads and husbands.

How do maternal instincts create the need to be right?

Mothers are often the judge, jury, and executioner when it comes to dealing with kids. They lay down the ground rules, they catch the kids when they violate those rules, and they are involved in meting out the punishment. Even in today’s society of working mothers and single-parent households, the mother is still the one who runs the home, in most cases. In fact, most mothers learn very early to never show fear or indecision in front of their children if they want to maintain control.

Male children grow up respecting their mother’s authority—it may not seem like it at the time, but they do. Their mothers have all the answers, or at least most of them. It’s no wonder that when these boys grow up, they accept or even expect that the women in their life are usually right.

How does the power of sex affect the need to be right?

The late Barry White once made the statement on a talk show that “The only power a woman has is between her legs.” Because he happened to be Barry White, the three women on stage with him agreed wholeheartedly. If any other man had said it, he would have been kicked in the nuts.

Still, it is true that women possess tremendous sexual power—for whatever reason, women are almost always the ones being pursued sexually and men are always desperately trying to gain their attention.

This might be shocking, but when one is desperately trying to gain someone’s attention for sexual reasons, they might say things they don’t mean. They might even say something unthinkable like “You’re right.” This helps to build women’s belief that they are always right. Incidentally, the more horny the man is, the more right the woman becomes.

Are women always right? It doesn’t matter; what matters is that they believe they are. Whether you attribute it to the media, physical stature, maternal instincts, sex, or something else entirely, women will continue to be right as long as men continue to let them be, unless a woman tells them that that’s wrong.